What are "bids for connection" in Gottman’s therapy?

In the context of Gottman's therapy, "bids for connection" refer to the efforts made by individuals in a relationship to seek attention, affection, or support from their partner. These bids can take various forms, such as verbal expressions of needs or desires, physical gestures, or emotional cues. The underlying purpose of these bids is to foster closeness, enhance emotional intimacy, and strengthen the bond between partners.

Recognizing and responding positively to these bids is crucial for maintaining healthy relationship dynamics. When partners respond to each other's bids, it helps build trust and emotional connection, which are foundational to a thriving relationship. The responsiveness to bids is an indicator of how well partners communicate and support each other’s emotional needs.

Other options, while relevant to relationship dynamics, do not encapsulate the concept of bids for connection as accurately. For instance, resolving past grievances, requesting financial advice, or discussing strategies for arguing may be part of healthy relationship practices, but they do not specifically address the idea of seeking emotional connection and support.