What should the therapist do when observing the use of Defensiveness during an interaction?

When a therapist observes defensiveness during an interaction, intervening by stopping the interaction and explaining it, along with providing the antidote, is the most effective approach. Defensiveness can lead to a breakdown in communication and prevent effective problem-solving. By pausing the interaction, the therapist creates an opportunity to identify this behavior and directly address its impact on the conversation.

Explanations and providing the antidote help the couple understand why defensiveness is detrimental to their interaction and the relationship as a whole. This approach encourages awareness and allows the therapist to teach the couple healthier communication strategies. Educating the partners about how defensiveness manifests and what they can do instead lays the groundwork for more constructive discussions in the future.

This option supports immediate intervention that can lead to lasting changes, allowing couples to work towards better understanding and connection after gaining insights into their defensive habits.