What should the therapist ensure before initiating the 10-minute conflict discussion between partners?

In the context of Gottman's Method Couples Therapy, it is crucial for the therapist to ensure that neither partner is flooded before beginning the 10-minute conflict discussion. Emotional flooding refers to a state where one or both partners feel overwhelmed by their emotions, often leading to impaired communication and an inability to engage constructively. When partners are flooded, they are likely to become defensive, withdraw, or react with increased negativity, which can derail the discussion and lead to further conflict instead of resolution.

By confirming that both partners are not in a flooded state, the therapist helps create a safer emotional environment that fosters open and productive dialogue. This allows both partners to communicate their feelings and perspectives effectively and promotes a greater chance of resolution. Ensuring partners are calm and collected sets the groundwork for a constructive 10-minute discussion, where both can express their views without escalating tensions.

This emphasis on emotional regulation and readiness is a core principle in maintaining healthy communication during conflict resolution.